24th December - Allah is enough for me
i have mental health issues.
googling and found these:
https://www.aconsciousrethink.com/7572/let-go-of-expectations/
Combating Overblown Entitlement In Ourselves
What about OUR OWN overblown sense of entitlement? How do we combat our own tendency to feel entitled?
1. Practice Thankfulness
One of the surest ways to combat an overblown sense of self-entitlement is to practice thankfulness. We may not have all we want, but we can learn to want what we have. We can learn to be thankful for what we’ve been given.
Having an abundance no more guarantees thankfulness than having a scarcity guarantees ingratitude. We can cultivate an attitude of thankfulness even for what may seem like small things in life. A comfortable bed, a glass of clean water, caring friends, healthy and abundant food, a cup of coffee, a job, good health.
2. Practice Humility
Another way to combat a sense of self-entitlement is by practicing humility. Not false humility, but actual humility. To understand that a happy and meaningful life is a gift – even if we’ve worked hard for it.
After all, not everyone is born into a country and at a time when opportunities abound. Some never experience even a moderately blessed life, while most of us have been blessed beyond measure.
So we should be humble and accept our blessing with humility – recognizing and acknowledging that not everyone is as blessed as we are. And equally recognizing that we’re no more entitled to such blessing than anyone else.
3. Practice Contentment
A third way to combat self-entitlement is by practicing contentment.
Contentment doesn’t deny that we would like more. Contentment is an attitude of satisfaction in what we’ve been given. There will always be more we could have. There can always be less than what we DO have.
Contentment is a settled conviction that what we have is ENOUGH – even if more would be welcome. We should also recognize that contentment may involve not having what would make our lives more difficult. Even if we don’t have all the things we want, we can be thankful for the things we don’t have that we don’t want.
A Final Word
If one believes in a Creator who endows us with certain inalienable rights – then we must accept that that same Creator can withhold rights from us – and be fully justified in doing so. In that case, EVERYTHING we have is a gift and there are no entitlements. Only what the Creator deems entitlements are entitlements.
things thankful for
6. Emptiness
You may be wondering what emptiness is doing on a list of things to be thankful for. Well, despite its association with suffering, unhappiness, and fear, feeling empty does not have to mean feeling bad.
On the contrary, it is often when we are able to rid ourselves of the burdens we carry – both emotionally and physically – that we are at our most content in life. Emptiness is a way of expressing a desire to be free from worries, independent of material things, and in a state of mental stillness.
It is only when we stop identifying ourselves with what we are not that we can fully connect with what’s most real; the tangible experience of the present moment in its indescribable pureness.
Being empty means being open, it means allowing yourself to truly accept and embrace the situation as it is, without anxiety for the future or regrets about the past.
7. Our Senses
We often take them for granted, but much of our experience of life comes through our five senses. We can see, hear, touch, smell, and taste the world around us, and while it is quite possible to be content without one or more of them, there is little doubt our senses enrich our enjoyment of life.
Just try to imagine what it would be like if you were no longer able to see the beauty of the natural world, hear the symphony of music, feel the touch of a loved one’s hand on yours, smell the sweet perfume of fresh flowers, or taste the flavors in every mouthful of food.
These innate abilities may seem trivial to us, but we must never take them for granted. They are what connect us to the universe we live in, and we would be much poorer without them.
11. Other Simple Organisms
It would be wrong to pay our respects to bacteria without acknowledging the vital role of all the simple organisms living on earth. We may go on safari or watch nature documentaries to marvel at the animal kingdom, but how often do we think about the unseen, unloved mass of creatures that form the basis of all life?
From molds and fungi to plants and insects, the most basic of all living things deserve the greatest of respect. It can be quite hard to fathom, but there really is a web of life; a complex relationship between every organism on this planet.
We take it all for granted, but if it weren’t for the likes of plankton and algae, we simply wouldn’t be here. If that’s not a reason to be grateful, I don’t know what is.
6. Pain
You might think that a life free from pain would be sheer bliss, but in both the physical and emotional sense, pain is an essential feeling.
It is a warning sign that something is not quite right, a notice to take action now before things get worse. Our bodies need the pain signal to alert us to cell or system damage, while our minds need pain to guide us away from situations that are detrimental to us.
If neither type of pain were felt, it would lead to a crumbling of our physical and mental wellbeing. Pain is, therefore, very much something we should be thankful for.
17. The Unconscious Mind
It may not feel like it, but your life is largely in the hands of a silent player; a part of you that gets very little attention or appreciation. That part of you is your unconscious mind.
There is simply no way that your conscious mind could ever handle the vast amounts of information that come streaming through your senses. From simple things like your ability to walk, to the intricacies of your decision-making process, much of what you do minute by minute is controlled by your unconscious.
Without it, we would be overwhelmed to such an extent that we’d be rendered utterly impotent and immobile. So it’s well worth thanking this force that sits in the background enabling you focus on the more important things.
things you need to stop expecting from others
1. Agree With You (Or Even Understand You)
It’s mindboggling to try and conceive of 7 billion completely unique people living on this planet, but that’s precisely what we have.
With this in mind, disagreement is inevitable; there is no possible way that everyone is going to think or believe the same things as you.
Heck, there will be times when the people you’re communicating with won’t even understand your views!
So, when others have conflicting opinions on something, you just need to accept this and let your mind move on.
Stop expecting others to…
3. Be ‘Ok’ All Of The Time
You’d probably be the first person to admit that you’re not always feeling bright and cheery, so you need to stop expecting others to be just that.
There are many reasons why someone might feel down: illness, tiredness, stress, work, or relationships, for example.
Just because you’d like them to be fine, it doesn’t make it so. You need to accept that people will experience ups and downs over time; it’s a very natural thing to go through.
And when they are feeling down, you should try to empathize with them and their situation; telling people to shake it off and pick themselves up is not always as helpful as you may think.
Stop expecting others to…
4. Read Your Mind
Your mind is off limits to everyone else, but it’s not always easy to remember this.
How many times have you expected someone else to know how you are feeling or what you are thinking? Sure, they may be able to read some signs, but there’s always going to be some guesswork involved.
The problem is, when someone close to you doesn’t instantly know what’s going on in your head, you can see this as a sign that they don’t care. It can generate ill feeling and cause friction. Sound familiar?
Instead, if you have something on your mind, it is almost always better to just come out and say it. By sharing your troubles and expressing your feelings, you can start to heal and it can feel like a weight has been lifted.
Stop expecting others to…
5. Change/Not Change
We are all growing as individuals; our everyday experiences become a part of us and new neural connections are made all the time.
Some of us may experience much more rapid change than others and this can be a major source of displeasure.
You probably wish that some people in your life could stay the same forever because you know and love them exactly as they are. For others, you may wish they could change because you see things in them that you don’t like.
Unfortunately, you cannot stop someone from changing and nor can you make them change. The source of angst is the same in both cases – you fear losing this person from your life.
On the one hand, you fear that some people might change and this could drive you further apart, while on the other hand, you can’t see a friendship/relationship continuing unless that person changes.
It may be hard to come to terms with the transient nature of life and how some people are bound to stop being a part of yours. Expecting anything different, however, will only make the separation more difficult.
Stop expecting…
7. The Worst In Others
It is my strong belief that most of us are genuinely good people who are full of love and compassion.
Despite this, it’s not uncommon for people to assume the worst about others – whether they know them or not.
You might expect them to cancel on you, to start an argument, to not pay you back the money they owe. You convince yourself that a stranger is going to laugh at you, belittle you, or harm you in some way.
It might be that having low expectations of someone is a way to avoid disappointment, but it can also breed the very behavior you wish not to experience.
Instead, as can be seen in school pupils across the country, when you expect good things from someone, when you encourage them, and when you provide the environment in which they can shine, they often will.
Rather than assume the worst of someone, try to envisage the good instead. This positive attitude can be self-fulfilling in how others treat you.
The Law Of Attr-Action
Fans of the Law of Attraction believe that you can manifest something into being by thinking about it. What we have seen here is that there is some element of truth in this. Self-fulfilling prophecies do begin with a thought or belief and grow into outcomes, but the key is that they require action (or the lack thereof) to come true.
Your behavior and actions are what will, ultimately, turn your thoughts into reality. In all of the examples above – both positive and negative – it is how you act that matters most. After all, your thoughts alone cannot influence other people or other moving elements of this grand life we live.
All you need to remember then is this: beliefs alter perceptions alter behaviors alter outcomes.
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you know what would be great? if all these things comes up to my eyeballs whenever i feel shitty and need to be reminded.
i need to be reminded every single seconds of the day.
that Allah is the greatest provider, the greatest planner, the greatest disposer of plans.
Allah is enough for me.