6th jan
https://cupofjo.com/2018/03/life-after-cancer-diagnosis-kate-bowler/
5. Each day has a peak moment.
I think differently about time. Before my diagnosis, I was always trying to get somewhere else. Now I try so hard to be present. There’s a moment every day, when you realize, this is it, this is the mountaintop. My little kid is looking at me with his giant oversized head, and he puts his wet hand on my cheek and says something funny like, I love you more than bananas. And I think, I peaked today! Ahh, that kid, that is my dream. And that head is way too big. Every day we’re trying to get his sweatshirt off, and it’s always too hard.
6. Love is in the details.
Universal platitudes — like “everything happens for a reason” — are so unsatisfying because everything beautiful is specific. Noticing the particularities of your wonderful, totally ridiculous life is the best part. My husband’s eyes and hair are the same color, 100% the same color, and it sounds super blah, but I love it. This is the crappy bungalow I live in, that’s the lawn I’m never going to seed in the fall, this is my life! If you don’t notice life in its specificity, you’re not in it. You’re somewhere else. You’re somewhere else until you’re asked to trade it out, and then all you want are the specifics.